Psychoeducation articles on attachment, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships, and more.
Erin came to therapy in her late thirties already fluent in the language of her own pattern. She had read the books. She could describe,...
Read Article →Kevin was twenty-six years old and sitting in my office for the third time when he finally said something that had not been prepared. The...
Read Article →Johann came home from school on a Thursday with mud on his sneakers and a report card in his backpack that he had been thinking...
Read Article →The Virtuoso: Achievement as a Substitute for Being Loved She came in with her curriculum vitae folded in her purse, which she mentioned in passing...
Read Article →The Mirror: Becoming Whoever the Room Needs A man I’ll call Daniel told me in our first session that he was very good at relationships....
Read Article →How the Rose Forms: When the Source of Safety Was Also the Source of Fear There is a particular family photograph I have been told...
Read Article →The Rose: The Pattern of Reaching and Pulling Away at Once She had ended three good relationships in the past six years. Not because the...
Read Article →How the Sentinel Forms: The Unpredictable Parent I want to describe a child’s Thursday afternoon. Not an extraordinary Thursday. Not a day with screaming or...
Read Article →The Sentinel: A Nervous System Built for Threat Detection in Love A woman I’ll call Mara told me that she knew, intellectually, that her husband...
Read Article →How the Island Forms: When Reaching for Comfort Was Met With Contempt A woman I’ll call Sarah described it this way. She said that when...
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