Mental Health Blog

Psychoeducation articles on attachment, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships, and more.

Attachment Theory Foundations
September 2, 2026

The Wagon and the Rut: A Metaphor for How Patterns Form

The Mirror: Becoming Whoever the Room Needs A man I’ll call Daniel told me in our first session that he was very good at relationships....

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 31, 2026

Attachment vs. Temperament: What’s Wired In vs. What Was Shaped

How the Rose Forms: When the Source of Safety Was Also the Source of Fear There is a particular family photograph I have been told...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 26, 2026

Why You Can Be Secure With One Person and Anxious With Another

The Rose: The Pattern of Reaching and Pulling Away at Once She had ended three good relationships in the past six years. Not because the...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 24, 2026

Attachment Styles Are Not a Personality Test

How the Sentinel Forms: The Unpredictable Parent I want to describe a child’s Thursday afternoon. Not an extraordinary Thursday. Not a day with screaming or...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 19, 2026

Earned Secure Attachment: The Most Hopeful Finding in Psychology

The Sentinel: A Nervous System Built for Threat Detection in Love A woman I’ll call Mara told me that she knew, intellectually, that her husband...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 17, 2026

Can Your Attachment Style Change? What the Research on Earned Security Says

How the Island Forms: When Reaching for Comfort Was Met With Contempt A woman I’ll call Sarah described it this way. She said that when...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 12, 2026

Why the Most Formative Years Are the Ones You Can’t Recall

The Island: The Person Who Needs No One (Until the Loneliness Wins) He came in at the insistence of his wife and said so immediately,...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 10, 2026

The Feeling Is the Memory: How Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Can’t

How the Empath Forms: The Child Who Learned Their Value Was Their Usefulness A man I’ll call Philip had a mother who cried easily. Not...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 5, 2026

Implicit vs. Explicit Memory: Why You Can’t Remember What Shaped You Most

The Empath: When Caring for Everyone Else Becomes Your Identity She came in carrying coffee for both of us. I had not asked for any,...

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Attachment Theory Foundations
August 3, 2026

Bowlby and Ainsworth: How Attachment Theory Was Discovered

Bowlby and Ainsworth: How Attachment Theory Was Discovered In the winter of 1950, the World Health Organization asked a British psychiatrist named John Bowlby to...

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