Psychoeducation articles on attachment, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships, and more.
When people first encounter the idea of secure attachment, there’s sometimes an assumption that it means something like emotional invincibility , never getting anxious in...
Read Article →In relationship dynamics, most patterns have some variation and flexibility , the roles shift, the positions swap, the players adapt. But one pattern has a...
Read Article →When people learn about attachment styles, they often fixate on the goal of becoming securely attached , of developing the internal state of security that...
Read Article →Long-distance relationships activate the attachment system in a way that few other relational configurations can match, because the fundamental challenge of long-distance is structural: the...
Read Article →Divorce is, in attachment terms, the dissolution of a primary attachment bond. Whatever the relationship looked like from the outside, and regardless of how long...
Read Article →There’s a fantasy version of couples therapy where one partner comes in with the attachment wound and the other partner is basically secure , steady,...
Read Article →Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences a relationship can go through. When it happens, both people need ways to make sense of it...
Read Article →Sexual intimacy involves two kinds of vulnerability simultaneously: the physical vulnerability of being unclothed, literally exposed, and the emotional vulnerability of wanting to be desired...
Read Article →The fight that started over the dishes is never really about the dishes. Most couples know this, at least in retrospect. What’s harder to see...
Read Article →Intimacy is the project at the heart of most romantic relationships , the slow, mutual work of becoming known by another person and knowing them...
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