Psychoeducation articles on attachment, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationships, and more.
The Sentinel: A Nervous System Built for Threat Detection in Love A woman I’ll call Mara told me that she knew, intellectually, that her husband...
Read Article →How the Island Forms: When Reaching for Comfort Was Met With Contempt A woman I’ll call Sarah described it this way. She said that when...
Read Article →The Island: The Person Who Needs No One (Until the Loneliness Wins) He came in at the insistence of his wife and said so immediately,...
Read Article →How the Empath Forms: The Child Who Learned Their Value Was Their Usefulness A man I’ll call Philip had a mother who cried easily. Not...
Read Article →The Empath: When Caring for Everyone Else Becomes Your Identity She came in carrying coffee for both of us. I had not asked for any,...
Read Article →Bowlby and Ainsworth: How Attachment Theory Was Discovered In the winter of 1950, the World Health Organization asked a British psychiatrist named John Bowlby to...
Read Article →The Strange Situation Experiment, Explained The room was small and deliberately ordinary. A chair, some toys on the floor, a one-way mirror. The year was...
Read Article →The Secure Base: What Every Child Needs and What Happens Without It I want you to watch something with me. It is not dramatic. Nothing...
Read Article →Why Your Working Model Feels Like the Truth (and Isn’t) A man I’ll call Thomas came to me after his girlfriend of three years ended...
Read Article →The Internal Working Model: The Relationship Map You Don’t Know You’re Using A woman I’ll call Nina came to see me after her second divorce....
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